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January 2020 Ex-Smokers   Quit Buddies Unite

Started Dec-3 by ModDee; 27089 views.
suemegan

From: suemegan

Jan-3

Hi ! 

Im back on my quest fore a Nope life. After 6 months I had a relapse of one week:(  hopefully the time I was smoke free will be worth it and not totally lost. I have such shame about starting again. Looking forward to success and feeling healthy again

Arielle2019

From: Arielle2019

Jan-3

Hi Suemegan, welcome back!! 

I quit three times last year, all together I was smoke free and spared my lungs 6 months in 2019, that is not wasted time. 

Just get back up on that horse again, remember how good it felt to be smoke free and aim to get there again. 

I pray and hope that this is my final quit but I chose to look back and do some changes this time around.

The best part of having already been smoke free is that the fear is not as overwhelming as we know the feeling of freedom that follows heart

Best of luck, you can do it muscle

Arielle 

Stopped poisoning myself 27 december 2019 

suemegan

From: suemegan

Jan-3

Thank you for your kind words and support.  I really want this quit to work for me. I loved being a non smoker. One day at a time!!!!

sue

Hi Sue,

You are back at your quit and that is the only thing that matters.  You can do this.  Many of us that have experienced slips and relapses learn from it and are stronger for it...like you.    Pledge not to smoke one day at a time.

                   

Lubbercat

From: Lubbercat

Jan-3

I think some of us just posted elsewhere.  I was on here before and just could not get my quit to hold on......I just reached 3 days this time at 1:30 today so, hopefully this one will be a success.  

Good luck to you on your quit

suemegan

From: suemegan

Jan-3

Thanks Marge!

you inspire me??????

suemegan

From: suemegan

Jan-3

Those question marks were supposed to be hearts:)

BlueDahlia29

From: BlueDahlia29

Jan-3

Hi Suemegan. This is a journey and even though you had a slip I'm sure you learned something about yourself that will help you along on the path you are on now. You can do this, it's not easy but it's simple---don't smoke. Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself from lighting up and be sure to replace the addiction with a hobby or activity you enjoy, that will help tremendously and always post here first before you light up.  Wishing you much success- You CAN do this!!!!

DanJF3

From: DanJF3

Jan-4

Just passed the 3 day mark myself about 4 hours ago.  Overall these past 3 days haven't been too horrible, just a bit of anxiety last night. The thought of smoking is certainly very present but I guess that's no different than any other day other than I managed to stay busy and not seriously consider the possibility of lighting up.  I'm happy to be a part of the discussion group, it helps not to be alone in this challenging journey.  

Dan

In reply toRe: msg 17

Hi January Ex-Smokers,

Here's a wonderful list ModJenn put together that should come in handy.

Quit Toolbox

  • Drink ice water through a straw. Repeat. Drink ice water through a straw. Repeat...
  • Knowledge is power. Read everything you can get your hands on about this addiction. The more you understand about your own addiction to nicotine, the better equipped you become to get through the cessation process.
  • Post on the Forum until your fingers are sore. Post, post, post. 
  • Closely related: Go to the NOPE pledge daily and hold yourself accountable.
  • When you come across posts that inspire and/or strengthen you ~ copy and paste them into a Word document. In this way, you can reread them when you feel wibbly wobbly and are climbing the walls.
  • Distract, distract, distract. (Shhhh.....I would do jumping jacks and by the time I got to about 10-12 I was distracted -- that's for sure. Try puzzles, reading a book, anything that shifts the focus of your thoughts.) More generally, stop whatever you are doing, move, and do something else. The craving will pass.
  • Remind yourself this is a journey and the more time you put between now and that last cigarette, the stronger your quit muscles become and the more you have in your quit toolbox. Take it one minute and hour at at time, if necessary, and the days will keep adding up.
  • Every day you go to bed smoke-free is a good day. Be kind to yourself along the way.
  • What you are experiencing is normal - "this too shall pass".
  • Take a shower. Brush your teeth. Put on lotion.
  • Read your quit reasons.
  • Create a list of all the benefits you are experiencing now that you no longer smoke. Practice gratitude at least once a day for these benefits and life changes.
  • Cinnamon flavored sugar-free gum (even cinnamon sticks).
  • Chai tea (I had to avoid coffee for a while but can drink it now without a problem).
  • Eat healthy snacks, such as carrots or frozen grapes (Some honesty here: I didn't always do so well with this one due to this pesky sweet tooth I developed once I could taste my food again. The good news is that as my quit felt more secure my eating wasn't as erratic.)
  • Protect your quit at all costs by avoiding situations that are high-risk for you, especially in the early part of the quit (e.g., other smokers, alcohol, etc.).
  • Make a plan for handling cravings when around temptation. Do not enter potentially difficult situations without a plan.
  • Remind yourself that it's going to be okay - time is your friend as you relearn every aspect of daily life.
  • Keep a journal to record your journey and it's easier to see how far you have come (It gave me perspective at times when I needed to remember that I may not be where I want to be but I'm most certainly not where I used to be.).
  • Reward yourself for the small accomplishments and the larger milestones (this doesn't' have to involve spending money).
  • Exercise - go for walks, join a gym, just keep moving.
  • Accept and tell yourself (that self-talk we have to turn from negative to positive) that the craving is actually a sign of healing and they will occur less frequently and with less intensity as the smoke-free days add up.
  • Deep breathing -- take 4-5 deep breaths -- fill up your diaphragm and and make your tummy stick out.
  • As ModLisa says: "When in doubt go to sleep". 
  • As ModMic says: "SOME DAYS, IT IS ENOUGH THAT YOU JUST DON'T SMOKE. Some days are crappy from beginning to end, and you can kick, scream, cry, punch something, bite someone's head off...if you did not smoke, you win and a little more healing happened".
  • Visualize a craving like a wave washing over you. The tide does leave. 
  • Tell yourself four things: (1) Smoking is no longer an option regardless of what life throws your way; (2) I am worthy of freedom from this addiction; (3) I can. I will. End of story; and (4) I am stronger than this challenge and this challenge is making me stronger.
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