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The mornings are my trigger time, too. I wouldn't even go to the bathroom, I would run outside and smoked two or three. So now I wake up and immediately put in a lozenge. Then I walk the dogs. It gets me out of the house and away from the store. If I don't feel like walking, or like the last three days one of my.dogs had had an upset tummy, I lay out the stuff for a craft or something to do right away. I forgot to lay stuff out last night for today so i got up and had a nice sammy. Just put in a lozenge now. I'm going to hang around here for a few and then go cross stitch. I struggle, man. I have struggled with this thing for years. I'm sure people will disagree but I've been told for years that's it's willpower. Just gritting your teeth and powering through. I do admit there is that but I also agree with the American lung association class I took that it's also about knowing your reasons, planning ahead and having distractions. I know that if I'm watching TV and I want to smoke that I have to get up and vacuum out my car. I know that if I am cross stitching and I want to smoke I have to mop the floors. I leave places a lot and I haven't taken many walks at work recently because of the smokers. I know this is sooooo hard. I promise I do. Would it help if you took pictures when you want to smoke? Cook a stir fry? Does your wife smoke in the house? Would it help if she smoked outside, maybe around the corner so you don't see her doing it, only smell her scent when she comes in? That helped me with my husband. I didn't see him smoke, I just smelled him and it was nasty. (No offense to your wife) he'd come in and I would gag. Barely any smooches for him. This isn't about your lack of willpower. I know from your posts that you really want to quit and that you are trying very hard. Just don't give up, whatever you do. Do NOT give up on this because you are worth it.
Sorry about the slip. Listen. You know the drill. One foot in front of the other my friend. Dust off and keep on truckin’.
Does your wife show no interest in quitting? It seems to me it might be helpful for you to have that support and would benefit her too. I can’t imagine going through this and living with a smoker. I’m stepping out side of what may be respectful boundaries here, and apologize for that, but am going to anyway. You guys are gonna have to sit down with pen and paper and make some game rules. Post them where you both see them all the time. There is nothing that will get her there but her, and we all know that, but you need stricter boundaries with her on it and better support and limits for you. I know this sounds harsh... you do know the tricks and have the tools but having them perpetually under your nose is a set up for a slip.
More later as I’m at work, but, I care very much for your success and believe it is doable....just very hard with the situation you are in. How can we help you set some healthy boundaries? We are all rooting for you!
I'll take your advice and use a lozenge, and the get up and go when you get the urge is good advice also, I will follow that. This morning I caved yet again, but I've only had the one (if that aint enough) I am using the lozenge now I popped one in when I read your post, It's a vicious cycle if you let it get hold of you, I am determined to nip it in the bud, You don't know how much I appreciate your support, I really need it, I feel like I am the solitary person on a deserted island surrounded by packets of cigarettes with no way to turn, I will climb this mountain with every fibre of my being, to that smoke free rarefied air. I do a walk of 7-8 Km 5 days out of 7 and swim the other two days with a friend- a non smoker, the exercise is good and a distraction, today I'm going to spend in the garden weather permitting, and push a mower around that's after I capture (Photo) the sun rising over the horizon, so I have a plan, for today tomorrow is my swimming day, and a walk, I forgot to mention I try to exercise every day at home as well so it's not like I am sitting at home dwelling on my next smoke, the key is distraction as you said, keeping yourself occupied, hey heck it's a new lifestyle we are embracing, the possibilities are endless. Thanks for your support TinyBadger.
My wife and I have had this conversation over and over again she shows no inclination to stop smoking, but abides with my request to not smoke in the house, and if asked hides her cigarettes so that I don't see them and trigger off a want. but apart from that she is inflexible to all persuasion regarding quitting, and she has a heart condition. It's like a death wish, In response to all efforts to persuade her she will say I'll cut down and I applaud her for that statement, but I am yet to see any evidence of that plan succeeding, I am trying to set an example but keep falling into the trap, I will just have to socially distance myself from her while she keeps up this behavior but at the same time be supportive when she shows an inclination to improve her health. Thanks for your support.
I’m sorry to hear the wicked voice won you over. I feel your disappointment, your weariness. There is no magic. It is really 99% mental perspiration. Your partner smokes because your partner HAS to smoke. That is what defines addiction.
I was just reading messages in the Sept string. You and your partner were both trying to quit then. It seems your partner got weary and gave up trying, yet you didn’t. You both don’t have to be in sync for you to do this.
You don’t have to be nicotine free yet, only smoke free.
Time to make this quit journey yours, totally and uniquely, Anthony “Jatchat” Turner’s journey! We are here to cheer! You are an inspiration!
Oh dear...I’m sure that just adds to your sense of anxiety and worry too!
Ok...well...We are here for you. It is so admirable how you come and share your experience and keep getting back on the horse and I hope you always will do that. You help us a lot too you know!
Hang strong today and I’ll check back on you later!!
I was using Step 2 patches but have gone back to step 1 + lozenge at times when I need it, though I have been using the gum, I can imagine life without cigarettes and it paints a rosy picture, I will have to hang onto this hope. I guess your right about my wife, what is going to turn her? The dentures are real I do need them I will save up for them after I get my orthotics fitted and new joggers. When I think of all the damage done to my body after 40 years of smoking I could cry, still we have to work with what we have. Thanks for your support.
I will try to keep faithful to my NOPE pledge today, and thanks for checking in today
Of course Anthony. Together we can do this. Slow and steady friend. Like Susan said...just keep the patch on. And don’t stop trying. One day something will click and you will be looking back at several months. Hopefully your wife will too.