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Well, it's rainy and windy here. I went for a long walk with the dogs anyway, they don't mind and seem to enjoy all the walks we've been taking lately. I'm on day 17 and counting. I've been using a free app to keep track of my progress. It's called easy quit, I think, and it gives you a lot of fun calculations about how long you've gone, money saved, a matching game to pass the time, and a lot of other stuff. If you enter your quit reasons, it will send them to you throughout the day. I got some more patches, as I'm still on the big boy ones, and have a while to go before I step down to the 14. I'm feeling better about using them after some feedback here. I think I agree that I need to do whatever it takes to quit and that I'm doing what works for me, no matter what reading material tells me the opposite. I've been cleaning house and am enjoying the fact that I don't have to burn a candle all day to smell it. And it smells so nice! I can even smell my dogs oatmeal shampoo from the groomer! All silliness aside, I've been much more active since quitting and don't find myself so winded. I do not regret this quit. I know that I stand on a knifes edge, such a fine tightrope between smoking and not. I keep reading and learning from everyone and it's great.
I use an app as well! It is neat to see the progress made. Mine also has health benefits - healthier teeth and gums, breathing functions, etc. Isn't it amazing that after smoking our bodies will being to heal themselves? If that isn't forgiveness.. I don't know what is! :)
As far as the NRT goes, do not let anyone/any article make you feel like you are not quitting the "right" way! Numerous people use NRT to quit, and lets be honest, it would not exist if there was not a need for it! Every quit is different and beautiful at the same time, with NRT or without. I too used NRT, and as this thread will tell you, I have successfully weaned off of it! I found that NRT took the edge off while I learned to alter my behavior to that of a nonsmoker - and there is nothing wrong with that!
Kudos to you and 18 days - you are SO close to 3 weeks and a life of not smoking!
I'm trying so hard, but I admit I'm feeling romancing the cigarette today. I think about sitting on the deck one cool day with my lemonade, visiting with my husband. I have to keep telling myself that I can do that without a cigarette, and that it only made my throat scratchy and I stunk. This last few days I've had some pretty strong urges so I'm really having to work a little harder at staying smober. I hope that one day I won't dream and think about smoking.
You need to change the record. Those smokes don't sing that song. Take another look at you reasons for quitting - look online at people who are dying from diseases of smoking.
You are actually trying to convince yourself that you want to smoke when you know you do not.
Take deep breaths, eat some chocolate, go for a walk, take a nap, just don't smoke.
Unless you really don't want to quit. Then by all means, smoke your brains out.
Unfortunately, these thoughts happen to most of us in the beginning. We have spent so much time training our brain when to smoke, now we have to do those same activities without smoking. A month or so ago, there were a handful of us who did some gardening and that weekend we ALL had the urge to smoke! That is because previously, we would garden and then smoke - we had to create a new memory of us completing/doing an activity without smoking. It is not the easiest, but it can be done and I know you will be able to do it. That is combined with you nearing the 3 week mark which is notorious for cravings popping up.
It sounds like you powered through and remembered why you quit and why smoking sucks- so, kudos to you! You are doing all of the right things, and because of that, there will be days that you forget about smoking all together! I promise :)
Is your hubby still holding tight?
He's still holding strong, although he's eating a little more crap than I'd like him to. I'm keeping that to myself and I keep buying fresh fruits and vegetables, which he does snack on, too. I did make it through, but man, the whole day was hard. I normally have 3 lozenges a day and yesterday I had 5! I kept busy, and did every trick listed here and it was still rough. My therapist says anything with a repetitive motion helps anxiety, so I did some coloring before bed and that seemed to help. I've been wearing the patch through the night to help with the mornings and wow, I have had some weird dreams! I know there are going to be some good times and bad times in quitting, and I am very aware that this won't be easy. I'm just so glad to have a place where I can whine and people get it! Today seems to be off to a good start so I'm hoping it will continue that way. What is your quit date? Do you have anyone in your life that smokes? What's your favorite trick to get through a crave? Do you have a hard time not smoking at work?
Am finished with patches...a couple of days now. I skipped a few days to ready myself. Have had some lengthy urges but really no different than before.
The key is continue to practice the non smoker things on my list!!!! This has been validated by posts I have been reading of folks many months ahead of me. Be serious about gratitude......maybe get a gratitude buddy. I know the desire will lessen but I am going to be realistic....it is not going away anytime soon. Be serious about who you choose to be around!!
Thats my 2 cents for today. Lol. How is your quit going?
I like that...a gratitude buddy!
You are doing so well Peggy! I’m proud of you girl friend!!!
I am afraid to come off the patch just yet. Looking at it as in the grand scheme of things....it is small stuff right now.
What mg are you on? You know what is best. You are so right.....it is not important compared to your day to day challenges. Just stay on it if you still want to be clean. This country’s circumstances may call for major adjustments with their recommended time at each mg. I don’t miss it....but was skipping days toward the end. Car is clean....wouldn’t want to smoke it up. Clear breathing is so fabulous. When I have to go out at least I can kind of breathe in a mask now. No doubt you can feel the same things!!
Hang in there my sweet
Please pardon my delayed response!
I am glad to hear your husband is still at it as well (even if he is munching too often! That will go away with time). I too, used to sleep with the patch on. Waking up without it was awful, I had NO motivation whatsoever! The one downfall to that.. is the dreams! I would have the craziest, most vivid dreams you could imagine! Not in a bad way, they weren't nightmares.. they were just odd. A handful of them revolved around me smoking - I woke up more than once so sad that I smoked! Only to realize.. it was just a dream!
I quit on April 10th. I quit a week before that but only made it 2 days before I smoked "just one" which led to a pack, which led to a week of smoking before I tried again. Luckily, my second quit stuck!! I do have a few friends who smoke. I didn't hang out with them for a couple weeks when I first quit. I have since hung out with them both and it was okay. What I find to be harder are new situations. For example, after planting my garden I wanted to smoke, the first time in the pool this year - I wanted to smoke. It is the "year of firsts" as the form will tell you, we have to do everything that we used to do as a smoker, as a nonsmoker to build up our muscle memory. (Don't you wish we could just fast forward a year?! lol) To help me get through the moments I would otherwise smoke, I now practice mindfulness and use deep breathing techniques - it really is amazing how a few deep breaths can help when you feel unsettled! That, and I try to remind myself that I should only focus on the things that I can control, everything else I need to let go, and not worry about. It isn't an overnight fix by any means but as I continue to work on it, I get better each day at it. I am actually still working from home due to COVID and will probably do so until at least September. I have wanted to quit for a while now and thought this was a good time to try since my routine was totally changed. I will be honest, our office closed March 16th due to COVID and for the first month of being at home I smoked, and man, did I smoke! Since I wasn't at work and could go outside whenever I wanted - I took advantage of that! It was bad - I was smoking ALL the time, more than usual!
I even wrote the times down one day to see -
4:10 pm (smoked 2 here because I was on the phone)
Went to a friends and had 3 more there and the list continues.. It was once I wrote it down and looked at how often I was smoking I new I had a problem! I guess I couldn't deny it when it was clearly written out on paper in front of me. Work aggravation is what made me have "just one" on my first quit attempt this year so I totally get how work can be a trigger. For me, that is where mindfulness and deep breathing really help, I have to learn to focus on what I can change and ignore the rest. Kind of like the serenity prayer, serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference!
How about for you? What has worked and what hasn't?