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February 2021 Ex-Smokers - Start Here!   Quit Buddies Unite

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Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-17

Appreciate you coming back every now and then to offer your wisdom...Rrrr exercise have not being doing well in that department for the last week, reason being My orthotics were being fitted for new shoes, got them back yesterday so now there is no excuse... Congratulations on your firm grip on your quit, hope it rubs off...

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-17

Well done on your quit so far...love that you are so determined so early in your quit... must be double figures now... 

Cheers

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-17

Hi Rose,

Congratulations on your quit, five days is great...

SYRRose

From: SYRRose

Mar-17

Thank you so much! Hope your quit journey is going well. 

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-17

Yes going well at the moment, using one patch and inhaler, seems to be working just fine, 21 days quit tomorrow. Are you using any quit aids Rose?

SYRRose

From: SYRRose

Mar-17

I am using a patch. So far so good! Today for the first time I visited with a friend who smokes and it didn’t really bother me too much. 

Nope62

From: Nope62

Mar-18

Welcome! Glad you are here!

You will find support and a lot of information to help you along on your journey to be free of nicotine. If you go back to the first page of this thread or the first page of the March thread, you will find lots of info and things to read about our addiction. You have already got a Great Start!

Good Luck To You!

  • Edited March 18, 2021 12:56 am  by  Nope62
Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-18

Oh no, NOT the wagon heading for the 'cut down on the wine' depot!  Well if you manage it can you haul me up, kicking and screaming, for the ride?

In reality, I am pretty keen to clamber on anyway.  I need to be focused to stay off the smokes, and I've noticed a definite correlation between wine and weight gain (who'd have guessed?).  If I'm fat AND drunk, I think I'm more likely to go down the self-loathing, what's the point of quitting route.   Last night was the first time in a week without any alcohol at all, and it actually felt good.  I slept better too, although in all fairness I was completely knackered from work and went to bed early, so I'm not that heroic really.   Still, I'm aiming to do the same tonight.

Eleven days today!  Thanks for all the help, dear friend.  I'm starting to believe that I might be able to do this.

Suzy

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-18

Thanks Anthony - it's eleven days!   How far are you along now?   I hope you're still feeling good.  I'm not doing too well with exercise either, but I'm going to try harder.

Hah - determination. The truth is, it comes and goes, but getting onto the forum really does help there.  If I'm feeling a bit weedy and miserable and starting to feel like I'm depriving myself, this place cures it pretty fast. 

Please can we have more photos soon? 

Suzy

Edit:  just seen that you're 21 days quit.  That's fantastic.  Three weeks of freedom and improving health!  You can do this!

  • Edited March 18, 2021 8:54 am  by  Suzy2018
KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-18

Hi Suzy,

How are you doing? 11 days now - yay that’s so great! I seem to remember week 2 is known as Heck Week (after Hell Week). And yes, being grumpy speak-before-you-think grouches with your partner goes with the territory. I’m sure Mike can take it in his stride - it’s all part of your recovery. 
 

My husband was a huge help in getting free from smoking for good. He hates smoking and hated to see the effect it had on me - said it made me look grey and anxious. As for why I smoked - I started when I was 17 as a sort of outlet - at first I kept it a secret but it still felt rebellious! Similar to what you said, I think it offered a sort of smoke screen to hide behind - when I didn’t want to face difficult feelings I would think ‘oh goodie I can have a cigarette’. Throughout my 20s I told myself I would quit when I was 30. In the end it took a few attempts over a few years, and that time was pretty miserable as I was now confronted with my addiction. I hated that feeling of slavery - panicking when I realised I was running out of tobacco on a Sunday evening, or paying more and more as the prices went up. The final clincher was when we got engaged - I did not want to spend my wedding day feeling stressed about when I would get a chance to smoke! And now we have our little daughter, I’m so glad I’m not distracted with smoking or worrying about breathing toxic fumes on her. 
I think quitting does force you to change as a person - for me, it’s been about facing those difficult feeling and learning to deal with them in constructive (or less destructive!) ways. And accepting I deserve to be free of the addiction every day - not just on my wedding day. Everyone deserves that freedom but the addiction keeps you down, right where it can control you.

Sorry bit of a ramble but hope that makes some sort of sense!

Re listening to your children - I’m sorry you feel the signs were there that your son wanted help but you didn’t see them. I hope you don’t beat yourself up about this - parenting and mental health are both so complicated! We can only do what we think is best at the time (not that I mean you did anything wrong). Also whatever you feel about then, it’s not like you stop being a parent - your relationship now with your son is just as important. 
I feel pretty daunted when I think about my daughter growing up -being a teenager! How will I know what to do/say?? And even when I do know, will I always have the patience?! 

Meanwhile, raven-type birds - yes I dig them too! They are so smart (that one certainly outsmarted me over our rice cakes) and inquisitive. I’m sure there is a particular one in Devon who thinks of you as the kind person who shared her pasty crumbs :) 

I saw you mentioned that when the diet and drinking come unstuck it can feel like ‘well, s*d it then I might as well smoke’. I’ve been there but remember: 

Some days it’s enough that you just don’t smoke.

As long as you don’t smoke you stay on the path to health and happiness!

Id better go and do some work now while daughter is napping. I work as an editor for a biomedical journal - luckily we haven’t been affected by the pandemic apart from having to work at home and not travelling to conferences. It must have been so scary to be self employed when the pandemic started. Glad you were able to get some of the government support eventually. 
 

Speak soon,

Katie

4th March 2017

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