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Can’t Ever Let Your Guard Down   Quit Support

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Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Mar-4

Hi Londiann,

Here’s the thing...if we wait to get to the point where we WANT to quit, it’s gonna be a long time smoking yet. There is a part of you that will always want to smoke on some level; it’s the addiction piece in our brains. This small piece takes over a very strong voice when all of your other wiser parts are telling you you want to stop, or when you choose to stop. Early on the struggle with that voice is incessant. And it sucks. There are a million (likely not one less!) “reasons” and rationalizations it has, and it voices them loudly. Someone wrote on here about there being a “switch to flip” and how great it would be if it worked like that. Well...it doesn’t, and it does work like that. Only problem is, when your wiser self flips the switch to off, that smaller addict piece comes along and switches it back on in the form of triggers. Oh, it would be so very grand if it didn’t have the knowledge and way to do that, right? But...it does. Let me tell you...I struggled and fought to find a way to quit without having to rely on willpower to some extent. For a long long time. What finally worked is finding a balance and accepting I am an addict. Yeah...that dirty word again. Accept the addict piece, bring it in to balance with the rest of you, and then decide which parts you want more. There will be a need for willpower, especially early on. But it can’t be ALL willpower as you will never win. Emotion will beat out willpower in the end every time unless you find a way in those moments to WANT to be a non smoker more. That piece of wanting to smoke will still be there. But as you go and make it through the first several days, something magical does happen if you tune in and listen to yourself. Really take note of how after the first few days you really can notice the difference. Of course that addict voice is gonna argue and struggle still. For quite some time. Just don’t let it be the strongest voice in your mind. I’m nattering on and maybe not making sense....the bottom line is...don’t wait for ALL of you to want to stop as that is just not going to happen. It isn’t. That addict does not ever want to stop. Find a way to make other parts of you want to stop more. It is true what Terry says: “If you want to change your life change your mind”. One crave at a time. Each one you conquer, embrace and really feel the empowerment that comes after. The key is just ONE at a time. Start future tripping and you start fueling the addict. 
You’ve got tons of support here your addict doesn’t want you to use. Use your wiser mind to decide.

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abrewster14

From: abrewster14

Mar-4

When I smoked and saw one of those non smoking commercials - woman missing her jaw, man whose chest was cracked due to massive heart attack, people missing limbs, holes in their necks all due to smoking - I seriously legit would light a cigg almost defiance. 

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Mar-4

Hahaha! Yup. “De Nile” is not just a river in Egypt. Funny how we always think it could never be us. Well, just like the lottery, someone’s gotta win. Smoking is absolutely 100% playing Roulette. Sucks, right? Those images and thoughts of that....

abrewster14

From: abrewster14

Mar-4

I don’t think you are an idiot at all. I’m 9 weeks into my quit. I read the book too and intellectually 100% get it but the thing Is honestly I tried the mad Russian, hypnotist, nrp gum lozenges patches, chantix (I’ve never thrown up more). Every quit Is different but I smoked for 23 years half a pack to a pack a day. I wanted a magic bullet that would make me not want to smoke. The action of not smoking is much easier than not wanting to mentally. I still get these thoughts every day but definitely less than in the beginning. For me I just don’t smoke and I have faith in time I will not want to anymore and I won’t think about it at all. 

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-5

You can do it Londiann! The fact that you are quitting and on this forum shows you do not want to smoke. The voice telling you that you do want it is nicotine addiction and nothing more. Yes it’s powerful but trust you have made the right decision to quit and with every passing day, hour that voice will get quieter and quieter - until it leaves you in peace to enjoy the freedom you deserve!

Katie

4th March 2017 

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