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August 2022 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

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Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Aug-10

Good morning Anthony,

I haven’t seen you in a bit, so wanted to check in. How is everything going? 
Hopefully you are busy exploring and contemplating this incredible planet we are on! 
I was just writing in one of the word games on here about a Beatles song done by Johnny Cash and it made me think about you.
Music is a huge part of my life. Takes my mind into places I’d love to go, and of course to many places I’ve been. Lately I’ve been trying to broaden my range of what I listen to, and mostly have been pleased and often pleasantly surprised. I’m envious of Andrew here who sounds incredibly talented with multiple instruments. I played Alto Sax in the High School band, but didn’t pick it up much after. When I got divorced, I bought this beautiful vintage piano from a shop on Belmont, called “The Immortal Piano Company “. Sadly, that shop is not there anymore. It took a few years before I was able to afford lessons but I’d play a lot on my own. Then I found a piano teacher whom I adored! She was amazing. She ended up moving to Minnesota a couple of years later but we had become fast friends and still are. After her, I ended up taking lessons from a guy who at the time was my daughter’s voice teacher. We had so much fun. I also became fast friends with him and his husband. Alas, lessons fell by the wayside once Covid came along, and I’ve since sold my beloved piano before selling the house. I miss her a lot. She was instrumental in my quit (joy) in so many ways. It was easy to go to her with a crave and keep my hands busy and distract my mind. It’s funny now to look back at those early days and see them with this perspective. Often I end up asking myself if it really was that hard, because hindsight, again always being 20/20. That’s a danger zone I’m glad I recognize as the addict is still very much alive. I could easily follow that train of thought into a quick derailment. Yes, there are moments I could talk myself right into having “just one”. The choice is ride the wave or have a thousand cigarettes, I know. Just read something in that E book about that which I will have to find again as it seemed a good mantra. 
 

Anyway…hope all is well. The song by the way is “My Life”. As I wrote previously, there is something very touching and genuine with Johnny’s version. The music is simpler yet incredibly beautiful in that simplicity. The authenticity of the crack in his voice when he sings it…so genuine and raw. Like life. Always genuine and raw. Makes it so breathtaking and profound. 

  • Edited August 10, 2022 12:33 pm  by  Loreficent
candrew

From: candrew

Aug-11

Lori-

I got a chance to do a search on No Man's Land, Lots of relevant content. I was going to join but I really don't want to spread myself too thin. I want to concentrate on a few things at a time. I am a multi-tasker but would get lost with multiple sites not remembering where and what I said and posted.

Hope you are well today,

Really enjoy reading your responses.

Good day,

Andrew

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Aug-12

Hi Andrew!

Join a site you found on No Man’s Land? I don’t recall there being site about it but seem to remember some blog talk. It makes sense right? That period of time where the newness of the quit wears down a bit and some of the initial momentum slows. Dangerous territory for sure. I think just being aware of the phenomenon and how widespread it seems is important. For me, being able to name something and also to see that other folks experience the same kind of symptoms or challenges helps to normalize something for me. Once it is normalized I can cope much better.  I’ve always wanted to be one of those people that can just accept esoteric ideas and concepts, but I struggle with doing that. 
 

Im doing pretty well! A bit worn out feeling today so am going to turn in early. Heading to Oahu on Sunday and I’m excited as I’ve never been to any of the Hawaiian islands. A friend of mine has a place there that is empty until he goes back in September and offered the condo and car for my use. I confess there isn’t much I’m attracted to in Honolulu or Waikiki except for the Bishop Museum. I will be most happy to fill my time exploring nature and hiking and small North side towns and beaches. 
 

Good to hear you are doing so well Andrew! Keep on dancing!!

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Aug-12

Hi Lore

Keep coming, there are plenty of beaches here in Australia to explore

Anthony

candrew

From: candrew

Aug-14

Lori

It's exciting that you get to be in Hawaii. I have never been. I love to travel and have probably been to at least 1/2 of the states in the USA. Much of my travel was for business and would stay over weekends to explore the sights and stuff. I enjoyed the flights, ordering 2 bottles of scotch and smoking several cigarettes, reading the NY Times. I thought I was hot s**t. 

Unfortunately, today I do little traveling, I miss it. I must admit I also miss my cigarettes too. Waking up this morning I think of my time out on the porch drinking my first cup of coffee, huffing down one after the other. I guess that was pleasure.

No more. "I just don't smoke anymore" PERIOD! My mantra that I repeat each time I have a craving. What were your triggers? Everyone has them. Boredom is another one that hits me throughout the day. That is why I keep as busy as possible. 

Life is much better without my compulsion to smoke, Health, money, self-esteem and a slew of other things that I get due to my decision to eliminate cigs. 

Getting ready to embark on my daily walk. I try to go further each day. My iphone keeps track of how many miles I go. It's cool.

Wishing you a wonderful day. Send me some pictures if you get a chance. 

Your friend,

Andrew

tonypfan

From: tonypfan

Aug-14

Good morning, Lore:  I replied to your post above the day you wrote it but for whatever reason I could not find a copy of my post the next day.  Maybe it didn’t go through.  

I listened to Cash’s rendition of My Life.  Yep, he sang it soulfully.  

Yesterday we had our annual Jazz and Oysters Festival here on the Peninsula.  It was held at Nachotta Bay.  The music was super good.  Mel Brown, a black Jazz musician who is a Portland legend, brought his trio here.  He is totally top shelf.  The crown was roaring and dancing.  We were thrilled to have him come visit us.  

How nice to experience such a fun day without smoking cigarettes.  I was noticing only a few smokers in the crown, who had to go to the end of the field to stand near the dumpsters for their smoke.  I used to hang out there when I was a smoker.  Now no longer.  

I hope you have a good week.  And I wish all the forum members continued success with their Quit.  

We are off to Seattle mid week for the opera.  Wife and I are opera fans and Seattle always puts off an exceptional production.  

Best to you and to all forum members.  

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Aug-15

Yes! Your neck of the woods is definitely on my bucket list Anthony! There is a ton of Australia I would love to explore. 
Hope all is well!

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Aug-15

Anthony,

Good to hear from you and know you are still smoke free and doing well! This is the first response I’ve seen since I wrote so am glad. I was a tiny bit worried you didn’t write because you had been smoking. Only a tiny bit! Anyway, glad that is t the case.

Yes I am on (in?) Oahu now. Arrived yesterday midday. I am staying basically at the base of Diamond Head. Walked down into Waikiki and all around for several hours and now can say I did that. I’ve spent the morning mapping out some drives for the next several days. Now it is 11am and I’m feeling a bit late to start, lol. May have to go for a swim close and nap and start out with an actual plan at the crack of dawn. The birds here are beautiful! And interesting sounding too. It feels hotter than I expected. Everyone has always told me it doesn’t seem that hot due to the breeze, which is very nice, but midday is still quite warm. I went into a store to get some sunscreen first thing yesterday and happened to notice that cigarettes are about $16 a pack!!! Wowza. So glad I won’t be buying any of those!

Seattle Opera sounds lovely! Will you stay the night there? Such a fun city really, with so many unique nooks and crannies. A walk around my alma mater, UW is always beautiful too. One of the prettiest West Coast campuses in my opinion. 
Yes! I know Mel Brown! Fantastic you got to see him. That sounds like a fun festival. And absolutely yes, how nice not to go hang with the smokers. It’s a relief really isn’t it?

Have a safe trip to Seattle! 
Wish me luck finding my way around here. It’s only so big, so I can only get so lost, lol. 

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Aug-15

Excellent thanks Lore 

candrew

From: candrew

Aug-15

Hey Dog-

It's been a while since we conversed. How is your smoking going? 

I seem to remember that you are early in this process. I have 12 weeks and 3 days smoke-free. It has been tougher this past 2 weeks than when I initially quit. I guess I am still not totally comfortable with the whole thing. Have you had any uncomfortable cravings? I'm sure you have as we all do. What do you do to fight them?

I find getting out and about and walk or find something else to keep me occupied. I hang out in the house too much but as hot as it is here in Central Florida (today 95 at 3pm) I stay in my air-conditioned environment.

I listen to music all day and night. I can be seen dancing with my headphones blaring when I take my daily walk or even grocery shopping. People think I am crazy (which I am) but I feel the music throughout my body (and soul). I love it, it gives me such pleasure listening to contemporary jazz, rock and roll, blues and other venues that get me energized. 

Other than that, I keep busy around the house upgrading the interior, fixing things or washing the car, whatever I can do that takes me away from the compulsive thoughts of smoking. Some days are better than others. 

I hope this post finds you well and smoke-free. Love to hear back from you sometime.

Dancin''

Andrew

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