This is so true. Im feeling so ashamed at myself and mentally defeated since I ignored the NOPE guideline and started back after almost 2 months of quitting. Today, I'm attempting the quit again although I'm not in the mindset to do so....why is that?? But I'm going to trugg onward anyway trying my best bracing for the hardest part when I have to be around a spouse that smokes let alone can't go a week without getting beerdrunk. I just want to take care of me, make me whole again and feeling good, health wise and mental wise. I was achieving that for those 2 months when I quit, plus I was away from my spouse so I believe this also helped. Now that I've stumbled and caved, and we're not able to be apart, I have to develope and implement a different type of quit. I'm just not in the right frame of mind to start this today...maybe because last night he came home drunk again and I'm always bummed out the next morning. I'm still going to try. 

You have the right attitude and you know you want to do this.   Remember that you are doing this for you, not for anyone else.  This is all for you.  Sometimes it helps to remember how selfish you are being, to quit smoking without anyone else permission notwithstanding anything any one else does or says.  Sometimes it helps to feel a bit superior over those who disappoint and annoy us with their not so pleasant habits.  To feel like you are getting one over on the irritating lifestyle around you by stepping out of the norm and into a new non-smoking lifestyle.

Take yourself out of your box and step into your new non-smoking lifestyle.  It will take effort to stay the course, but just keep remembering, you are above all that.

Stay with us.  We are here for you.  You can and will do this because, you want to.

Cheers!!!     

Hey Karen... Anne is so right. You are above all of that irritation. But I do sympathize with what you are going through. It sounds very stressful. Do you remember anything you did the last time you quit, that brought you success? Perhaps implement that again when you are ready. I struggle with trying to get off of nicotine lozenges. I have actually increased my intake from 6 a day to 12 a day. I want to make a clean quit, but am too afraid to. I think you are going to be okay. You sound like a survivor. And in time when you are ready, you will succeed at quitting. Praying for you and wishing you all the best! You may think you are done, but the fact that you have opened up and asked for help on this forum shows that you are still here wanting to quit. Let that give you hope and light.

Your post is very inspiring.  Thank you.  You are so right.  Just when you think you are done, asking for help is  a sign that you haven't given up entirely.  There is hope.

Thanks Anne. I'm happy to give any type of support I can, especially while my struggle is ongoing. I have had 17 lozenges today. I feel hopeless, but I too know that if I'm still here on this forum, I do have even just a thread of hope to cut back again.

Hi Karen,

Coming to this forum and asking for help is a good step.  One mantra I have seen on this forum several times is to never quit quitting.  When you are dealing with stress, it makes it much more difficult to be in the right mindset.  For many of us, smoking was our "friend."  The thing we could turn to when things were bad for comfort.  Getting out of that mindset is really difficult no matter what is happening.  Learning how to cope with difficult situations without smoking is something all of us had to relearn.  

There are groups such as smoking anonymous, etc. that may also be helpful.  If you are dealing with an alcoholic spouse, you may also want to look into Alanon meetings.  I am not a counselor, but starting there may give you some tools to put you in a better mindset.  Quitting smoking is a journey of learning about ourselves and how we overcome addiction.  Everyone's journey is different and has its own battles.  We just have to keep fighting!  

Thank you.

5 days now. Since I fell off course about a month ago after almost 2 months of stopping, I know what my journey ahead holds. The thoughts to go for a smoke are fleeting and usually diminish after deep breathing and exhaling and taking a short pause with my eyes closed reminding myself that I don't smoke anymore. I've had to quit beating myself up about this last stumble.....I ignored the NOPE rule. This time been hit with non stop headaches unlike last quit. I just need time. Thanks for reaching out

You are absolutely correct - you just need time and you will twice as strong as before.  Keep doing what you are doing and you will win as long as you do.

Congratulations for getting back into your non-smoking lifestyle.  Quitting smoking really is one of the best things you could ever do for yourself.

Cheers       

I want to chime in here. Karen, don't fret too much, although that is easier said than done. Five days of not smoking is a small but stable start. Keep closing your eyes and keep taking deep breaths, reminding yourself that you no longer smoke. Take all of that pride and peace into the next moment, and let those moments continue to roll into quitting success. Stay busy. Chew gum. Sip cold water. Go for walks. Light housework. Music. Word searches, crosswords, praying... There is lots to keep us occupied. You have got this. I believe in you!

Hi Molly,

  I did need to read what you wrote. I did a lot of hiding from my 26 year-old daughter. She would really let me have it, so I just snuck around. My mother died at 59 from cigs and I have just heard my father has lung cancer, although he quit 20 years ago. I am afraid and on the other hand at 9 days quit I am dying for a cigarette. I hate that. My father is a big screaming red flag and I am pushing it away because I want to pretend everything is okay still. Still. Jeez. Sick of this addiction!

Mercy

9 days