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Desperate to Smoke, Desperate to Quit   Introductions/Newcomers Nook

Started 1/9/23 by Terry (abquitsmking); 3803 views.

From: Robnosmoke


I quit smoking 6 weeks ago for the second time in my life, the first time was in 1995 after 30 years of smoking and it was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life but I persevered and won that battle  

I took them up again after a failed relationship in 2004, you could say they were a psychological pacifier to suck on. This time around was much easier because I had worked out all the coping mechanisms and the main thing is to be 100% honest with yourself. Once you take up smoking you are always an addict just like any drug or acquired habit, Opiates, alcohol, food or whatever. The human brain thrives on routine. You get up in the morning and have a cup of coffee that is a part of your routine and you could say that addiction is a form of routine. You repeat something often enough and it becomes part of your routine and the brain likes it which is one of the many  reasons it is so hard to quit. To remind yourself the reason you quit in the first place as often as possible is a good coping mechanism. Simply, be honest with yourself, be positive with your self and take it one hour, one day or one week at a time and above all do not become arrogant or complacent about it.


From: Jerthie123


Hello Rob... Congratulations on being 6 weeks smoke free. What you say about routine is so true. Addiction to anything becomes routine, and it becomes very difficult to untangle out of what becomes a nasty habit. I am enslaved to the use of nicotine lozenges. I think I need to immediately change my thoughts around them. If I can change my thinking it just may redirect the urges to suck on one. All the best to you on your quit!


From: Robnosmoke


Hi Jerthie

That is the fundamental problem with Nico replacement therapy, it only reinforces the addiction, the mind or subconscious is quiet happy as long as it's getting it's hit of Nicotine. Did you know that Nicotine is used as a weed killer?" now just imagine what it can do to your lungs and heart after a decade. It had damaged my heart resulting in a heart attack but no, that didn't stop me, finally after developing a chronic cough and symptoms of lung fibrosis and the thought of ending up on oxygen support like those anti-smoking ads, I had the reason and resolve to quit. At first I too tried the lozenges but they tasted so vile I chucked them in the trash can and buckled down to do it cold Turkey. Fortunately it worked for me, keep at it, if you need the lozenges so be it but have a plan to ween yourself off those too and stick to it. Keep a diary with all the reasons you want to quit, repeat them to yourself as often as you can. Last of all DON"T GIVE UP.


From: MarthaJC


Hey Rob - former long-time smoker here, quit cold turkey about 18 months ago. Everything you've written about addiction rings true. Recently I had a conversation with a friend who also quit around the time I did, after decades of smoking. We agreed that as hard as it was to adjust to life without nicotine - and damn it was hard - it's good to remind ourselves of what lies on the other side. Mainly -- freedom! Freedom from the stress of knowing you're choosing to harm your body, freedom from the insane cost of cigarettes, freedom from being ruled by figuring out "how can I smoke?" at social events/vacations, freedom from guilt. And yeah, it's important not to be complacent. I still have cravings from time to time, and I know how to deal with them. I also know myself. Not One Puff Ever is the only good choice for me. Hang in there - as you know, it gets easier and it gets better!


From: Anne2020


Welcome back to your non-smoking lifestyle.  As you are familiar with the landscape, about all I can say is, I am sure you will find everything you need on this side.  Welcome back.



From: Robnosmoke


Hi Anne

Thank you for your positive words, I have yet to know if the damage done to my lungs is reversable or at best manageable but maintain my optimism. To all the younger smokers out there, choosing to quit is the best and bravest thing you have ever done, a big high five to you all. In Australia, where I live, successive governments have been putting the price of cigarettes and RYO tobacco up for many years to combat smoking, a 25g pack of the cheapest RYO tobacco currently costs $55.00 AU and will be increasing in the coming months. I smoked between 3 and 4 packets of this garbage a week so now I save around $160-$220 a week, over the course of a year I am saving thousands, meat is expensive here but I can now afford the luxury of cooking a steak eating more healthier foods or buying myself little treats like a nice pair of pants or a shirt, something I did not have the luxury to do before because my time was consumed budgeting for tobacco.


From: Anne2020


You are so right.  Wasted a lot of time and money.   Time I could have been playing with my children, getting more work done, visiting with relatives (mom and dad) etc.  In the three years I have been quit, I have saved over $10,000. 

I just imagine all the money I could have spent on my life instead of investing so heavily into my death.  

Smoking is a total loss and not just to me.  My family and friends lost out on my time and attention too. 

Kind of makes me angry to have fallen into the trap and not getting out a whole lot sooner in my life.  


  • Edited May 19, 2023 12:25 pm  by  Anne2020

From: Molly010


Agree with you both on this one.  I was pretty angry that I kept "falling into the trap" for all those years.  I was killing myself under the illusion that I was denying myself something pleasurable when trying to quit.  Finding a place to smoke, is there a place to smoke where I am going, do I have enough for the day, when should I sneak out for a smoke, etc.  Looking back, it is just so ridiculous.  

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From: Anne2020


I was reading your post regarding relapses and how debilitating they are to trying to quit again.   I think you have something there.  Seems to me that all the new brainwashing you have given yourself to quit no longer has power if you relapse. 

Once you relinquish the power you get from quitting smoking, how are you ever going to convince your mind to regain that I Quit power. 

Smoking is more than a physical addiction.  If it was just physical, we could all be over it in a few days.  Quitting smoking is hugely psychological.  When you relapse, your quit psychology takes a real beating.  I think that's why it is so tough to get back to the quitter status you once had.

Better not to even go there.

NOPE, not doin that.  NOPE... NOPE... NOPE...       

kstm (KarenEStMary)

From: kstm (KarenEStMary)


This is so true. Im feeling so ashamed at myself and mentally defeated since I ignored the NOPE guideline and started back after almost 2 months of quitting. Today, I'm attempting the quit again although I'm not in the mindset to do so....why is that?? But I'm going to trugg onward anyway trying my best bracing for the hardest part when I have to be around a spouse that smokes let alone can't go a week without getting beerdrunk. I just want to take care of me, make me whole again and feeling good, health wise and mental wise. I was achieving that for those 2 months when I quit, plus I was away from my spouse so I believe this also helped. Now that I've stumbled and caved, and we're not able to be apart, I have to develope and implement a different type of quit. I'm just not in the right frame of mind to start this today...maybe because last night he came home drunk again and I'm always bummed out the next morning. I'm still going to try.