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Started Jun-17 by judyinohio; 586 views.
judyinohio

From: judyinohio

Jun-17

My DH has a younger sister named Cheryl and she has a grandson named Andrew. This boy sent us a high school graduation announcement. (All of these people live hours away from us and are basically strangers; we have not seen Andrew since he was a toddler so you could say the family is not close.)

His other great-aunt sent an email to me and said she saw on Facebook that he was valedictorian of his class, a star of his soccer team and he planned to go on to college and major in biology. Sounded like a good kid and so I sent him a $100 Visa gift card in a graduation card because I figured he could use the funds toward college. (I stuck a return address sticker on the cardboard folder encasing the Visa card because I thought he might get more than one of those and so it would make it easier for him to keep track of which Visa card came from who.)

Yesterday I got a thank you note with the envelope addressed by his mother. (Same writing that was on the graduation announcement.)  The two sentences inside were written by Andrew and did not refer to the monetary gift at all but were generic: "Thank you for the graduation card and kind note. It truly means a lot."

Yeah, buddy. Your thank you note means diddly squat.

Do not send me a college graduation invitation.

Do not send me a wedding invitation.

Of course, I could conveniently be dead before those events.

His grandparents would be embarrassed if they knew ...

well, at least you got something.  Many of those niceties have fallen by the way side now.

CC (ccase5)

From: CC (ccase5)

Jun-17

Ha. well at least you got a note. You should write back "oh my goodness, did the gift card fall out before you got it?? " say you will cancel it then. so sorry,etc, etc.

now aren't you ornery!

Contraryqltr

From: Contraryqltr

Jun-18

So true - how hard is it to just write a quick note & drop it in the mail?  I mailed a house warming quilt to my brother and his wife - they moved to South Carolina 3 years ago.  I never heard a word - they did not even call me to say they had received it.  I know they did because it had tracking on it!

I also got invited to a cousin's kid's high school open house.  I was a little strapped for funds at the time, so I made a really cool "young person" bracelet and gave that as a gift.  Again, not a word from the receiver. 

I try to maintain that the joy is in the making, not the thanks of the receiver.  Sometimes, it's harder than others.

Mary in Michigan

latterberry

From: latterberry

Jun-18

This does not surprise me.  At least you got an attempt at a thank you.  I sent my own grandddaughter a card with cash for her 8th grade graduation and have't hear a thing.  We did go to the ceremony but I had forgotten her card and got it to her a few days later.  Her father ws taught better.  My kids were not allowed to spend or play with ay ift until and thank you was written.

CC (ccase5)

From: CC (ccase5)

Jun-19

Yes, i thought i sounded a little ornery myself. Not like me, that! oh well, we all have bad days and I'm OLD.
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judyinohio

From: judyinohio

Jun-19

Long story short, I've heard from the twerp's mother; her golden boy is perfect, will be going to medical school someday and I didn't deserve a long thank you note because he doesn't know me.

Lost cause, folks, that family is a lost cause.

I am so glad that I didn't raise my children during the days of social media when playing in multiple sports, etc. and being the valedictorian at a rinky-dink very small town Ohio school meant you were hot stuff.  If your mother addresses your envelopes for you then you are a momma's boy in my eyes.

CC (ccase5)

From: CC (ccase5)

Jun-19

well, at least one in the family is trying. Poor Mothers.
5dogmom (CRISR5)

From: 5dogmom (CRISR5)

Jun-19

"I didn't deserve a long thank you note because he doesn't know me"

I'd say if he doesn't know you well enough to thank you for a gift, then you don't know him well enough to send him future gifts.  Like upon his graduation from college, his engagement, his graduation from medical school, his wedding, the birth of his children, etc.

I'd lose any future mail I received from these people.

Cris in MT

 

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