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You are totally justified in your rant. I feel exactly the same. I prefer a written thank you but would be happy with a phone call.
Shelley I agreed with you.This is the times we are living in. But it hurt.There is nothing you can do about it. I found out yesterday that Jo ANN Fabric Store will not bag your stuff you buy.You either bring your own bags or buy it. I said why is there not a note hanging at the door to tell me.I could have gone to my car bring in some bags. And some of the cell phone store's will not down load your stuff on to the new phone that you bought.You have to do it your self.They say they don't have time.
I agree Pirate. My niece got married last year and I gave her a card with cash, have never received a thank you card or verbal thank you. I don't know where the "current norms" came from, but I would think it is just common courtesy to thank someone for a gift. Rant justified!!
I gave up on receiving any written thank yous. I would be satisfied with a verbal thank you or even a texted thank you. My sister's grandson graduated from high school two years ago and I gave him a card with money and received a beautiful letter back from him, even though we live within 10 miles of each other. His mother raised him right.
His mother raised him right.
That is the crux of the matter.
So many parents are so busy these days that they cannot act like parents and sit down and teach the old-fashioned stuff like common courtesy, manners and respect for elders, etc.
When a kid does not send a thank you note, I blame the kid's parents for not teaching that social skill.
Little Beauregard might be a whiz at playing soccer (or Miss Tiffany might be a marvelous cheerleader) but the kid will be a social jerk when it comes to functioning as a 35 year old adult in the real world some day.
So, I think it's still necessary to send a little hand written note. I'm told wedding gifts are 1 year, tho. SMH. People are less than grateful. I got $20, $5, etc for my wedding, and still sent out llittle notes.
latterberry said...but would be happy with a phone call.
Heck, even an email shows acknowlegement.
That is the crux of the matter
Not always so. My kids were raised that they could not spend or play with a new gift until the thank you was written. Son #1 had their wedding thank you cards done within a couple of days. Son #2 took over 6 months with some "encouraging" fro mom.
Honestly, i am quite put out by this. I don't care if "current norms" preclude a thank you card. Common courtesy says that you acknowledge a kindess done on your behalf.
I quite agree with you on this. Sadly, it seems to be a generational point of view. Somewhere between the time we were raised and the current times, there has been a general disconnect in social mores. Growing up, my Mom gave me seven days to write thank you notes; when I got married, the expected standard was 30 days.